Feeling good together: the secret of making troubled relationships work

Why can't we all just get along?

What the experts say

The dark side of human nature

Why we secretly love to hate

Three ideas that can change your life

Diagnosing your relationship

How good is your relationship? : the relationship satisfaction test

What do you really want?

The price of intimacy

The relationship journal

Good communication vs. bad communication

How we control other people

Three troubled couples

How to develop loving relationships with the people you care about

The five secrets of effective communication

The disarming technique

Thought and feeling empathy

Inquiry : "did I get that right?"

"I feel" statements

Stroking : "I-it" vs. "I-thou" relationships

Putting it all together : solutions to common relationship problems

Making the five secrets work for you

Mastering the five secrets

Using the five secrets in real time : the intimacy exercise

Intimacy training for couples : the one-minute drill

Common traps and how to avoid them

"Help! the five secrets didn't work!"

Helping and problem solving

Hiding your head in the sand : conflict phobia and anger phobia

Apologizing : "Can't I just say, 'I'm sorry'?"

Submissiveness : "I must please you"

Resistance revisited : "why should I have to do all the work?"

Advanced techniques

Changing the focus : is there an elephant in the room?

Positive reframing : opening the door to intimacy-and success

Multiple-choice empathy : how to talk to someone who refuses to talk to you.

Why can't we all just get along?

What the experts say

The dark side of human nature

Why we secretly love to hate

Three ideas that can change your life

Diagnosing your relationship

How good is your relationship? : the relationship satisfaction test

What do you really want?

The price of intimacy

The relationship journal

Good communication vs. bad communication

How we control other people

Three troubled couples

How to develop loving relationships with the people you care about

The five secrets of effective communication

The disarming technique

Thought and feeling empathy?

Inquiry : "did I get that right?"

"I feel" statements

Stroking : "I it" vs. "I thou" relationships

Putting it all together : solutions to common relationship problems

Making the five secrets work for you

Mastering the five secrets

Using the five secrets in real time : the intimacy exercise

Intimacy training for couples : the one-minute drill

Common traps and how to avoid them

"Help! the five secrets didn't work!"

Helping and problem-solving

Hiding your head in the sand : conflict phobia and anger phobia

Apologizing : "Can't I just say, 'I'm sorry'?"

Submissiveness : "I must please you"

Resistance revisited : "why should I have to do all the work?"

Advanced techniques

Changing the focus : is there an elephant in the room?

Positive reframing : opening the door to intimacy-and success

Multiple-choice empathy : how to talk to someone who refuses to talk to you.